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What If You Regret Moving House?

Posted on November 25, 2016 by Peter Donaldson

A quick glance at different corners of the internet is all it takes to see that, alas, some people move house and then deeply regret it. From our experience, it’s only a small proportion of movers who go through this kind of anguish. They’re consumed by the feeling that the grass they’ve just left was greener than that at which they’ve arrived. Sometimes, this is just an undefinable feeling of something not being quite right combined with a rose-tinted view of the past. It can catch you unawares, especially when a decision is as big and momentous as that of moving house. Change isn’t always easy and will quite frequently bring up desperately conflicting feelings. The good news is that all you have to do is ride the feelings out and they will dissipate.

Often, the worry and regret can be alleviated just by getting on with acclimatising yourself to your new surroundings, forging local links and creating new friendships. There will, no doubt, have been very good reasons that prompted you to make the move in the first place. Simply reminding yourself of the pros, rather than the cons, can work wonders; make a list in writing to refresh your thinking and put it on a more positively plane.

Another possible aspect of house-moving regret is the notion that the grass is greener at neighbours’ properties. As you start acclimatising, your attention is drawn towards houses on the same street and your mind alights on one thing after another as it tries to build up the idea that these houses are better, whether that’s better structurally or in terms of condition and layout. Try to step back from the thinking and see it for what it almost always is; your mind playing games. You don’t need this self-torment and it isn’t serving you in any way.

Provided that you take certain steps and protect yourself before the move (stay within budget, conduct a structural survey), then any regret afterwards is no more substantial than vapour. It may seem heavy and convincing when it strikes but you will find that, on scrutiny, it evaporates, leaving you free to enjoy your wonderful new home.